We, or at least I, also have the advantage of looking at this with old eyes. What I know to be important now, experiences trump financial gains, I didn't learn to appreciate until well after my 20s and not sure that I even fully appreciated it when my boys were 18-20 years old.AppSt94 wrote: ↑Mon Apr 01, 2024 3:11 pmI don’t disagree. While I understand your reasonings, they really seem like they would be better presented to the group as a whole versus making that argument to each individual persons needs and desires. I can’t say that your assessment of each individual’s talent is incorrect, they are likely to approach that from a position of which opportunity gives me the best chance to beat the odds. Your State example is a good one for a few reasons. They are successful as a group because they play well together, but many players at the mid tier level will look at DJ Burns and see that his play at State opened a door that was likely closed or slightly ajar when he played at Winthrop. So while the odds are never in your favor, they look better when playing better competition on a nightly basis.appgrad95&97 wrote: ↑Mon Apr 01, 2024 1:48 pmThat's a really good question and really well put. My answer is stay. Here's why, none of these guys is going to the NBA, it doesn't matter if they transfer to Carolina, or Duke, or Kentucky, or UCLA. Second, I think I missed two home games so I saw them a lot. They really seemed to enjoy playing with each other. They looked like they had fun. NC State is not loaded with NBA talent, but look like they have fun together. Third, if this team had stayed together, they could have been really good. This year they were getting votes. Next year's team could have scheduled good power road games and made easy work of the Sun Belt. At the end of the day getting to do something amazing with a group I liked, would have kept me in Boone.AppSt94 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 31, 2024 5:53 pmSimple question to the group. If you or your child were in a similar situation would you advise them to stay or go? And when I say situation, take out your love for App and think about in terms of your kid, who doesn’t have that same love or devotion. I’m not saying that these are sound decisions, I’m just pointing out that we don’t know the personal motivations and without that information, are we in a position judge?
To your point on staying because this team could be good, you aren’t wrong but once one leaves, the dominos to that rationale fall apart. Like you, if it were my decision, or my son’s decision, it’s a bit different because I am fortunate that I don’t need the NIL money to survive or to attend games. Not all kids are blessed to be in a situation like the Aguilar’s that they can make all of his games.
Appreciate the response.
Which is also why, having the adult in the room making hard decisions is needed. (yes, looking at your NCAA)